Your kid is not to blame for being bullied. The bully is to blame! You can teach your child how to modify their facial expressions to make your child less vulnerable. Modifying facial expressions to stop bullies can be extraordinarily effective.
Why changing facial expressions to stop bullies works
When your child is bullied, their facial expression generally reflects the turmoil they are going through. When bullied, your child may appear scared, embarrassed, or sad. The bully gets satisfaction from seeing his victim, your child, visibly upset.
It turns out that bullies respond to nonverbal communication. The posture, eye contact, tone of voice, and facial expressions of your child deter bullies.
Substantial research indicates that the bully seeks a target where the bully senses vulnerability. The bully uses facial expressions and other body language as a marker to find victims that will give him or her some “reward” for bullying.
Children can learn to change facial expressions
If all of us had pre-programmed unchangeable responses to bullies, we might be stuck. And, the only hope for your child would be addressing the bully’s problems. This would be a difficult route to take and would mean that your child’s safety and security completely depends on the actions of other people.
Fortunately, we can learn how to respond to difficult people – even to bullies. Your child can learn to manage their facial expressions to stop bullies. Bullies attack when they sense vulnerability. Your child can learn to broadcast confidence.
Bullies are encouraged when your child reacts in ways that gives the bully satisfaction. Your child can learn to manage how he or she reacts in ways that discourage the bully.
Practicing facial expressions
Our first strategy is to have your child practice their facial expressions in the mirror so that they will be able to display a calm and confident expression in front of the bully.
Your child should try to imagine the bully bothering him or her while maintaining a calm facial expression. Once your child is able to consistently do this in the mirror, they should be able to display a calmer and more confident expression when the bullying begins in school. When the bully no longer sees much anguish in his victim he or she will generally lose interest in teasing that particular child.
Other things that you can do:
You can help your child overcome bullying.
- Interrupt the pattern of bullying.
- Build up physical strength.
- Stand up to the bully.
- Work with your child’s school.
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